I have detailed what i want, and now i will share with you some research that i have done
Here is a link to a great tutorial for setting up a mostly awesome XBMC center
Out of that the only thing i want to change is the locations. I want XBMC on the HTPC and the rest (TED, EMM, EventGhost, uTorrent, Renamer) on the server. I would also like couchpotatoe, but I'm not sure if it works with torrents or only the downloader which must not be named. Also TED sucks. I currently use TV Shows for OSX and its awesome. I do wish there was a RSS torrenter for games
Also if i ever buy a real computer, I'd like to run a TV tuner and turn it into a PVR.